Are You Using the Latest Strategies in Couples Therapy?

Couples Therapy Training that Works!
I can still remember how embarrassing it felt to present myself as a couples therapist when my training and skills were shaky.
I worried about a couple’s marriage hanging by a thread when they were depending on me, not realizing how few couples I had successfully helped. And I felt like a fraud waiting for the next couple referral when I lacked confidence.
If you’ve ever felt like that, you’re not alone.
You might have experienced the following scenario:
Your intuition guides you to make thoughtful, steady interventions. Everything looks great. Then unexpectedly, something you say makes the whole session fall apart. They end up blaming, you end up flooded. And you wonder what went wrong, or how you could prevent it from happening again.
Or maybe you feel like you’re doing a great job being empathic with a couple. You’re right there with them in their pain. You think they feel really understood. It seems like things are going well. And suddenly they call you up to say “we’re not going to come because we don’t feel like we’re getting anywhere.”
Without thoughtful mentoring and training, you could go your whole career wondering when things will fall apart.
And your work in the world is too important to let intuition alone guide you.
I’ve seen almost every well-intentioned therapist make mistakes that undo all their careful work.
It’s more common than you think, and it’s affecting marriages all over the world. It’s a big reason the divorce rate is so high, and climbs higher every day.
But I believe I can help you develop a confident understanding of what to do, when to do it, and why you’re doing it, so that you can work with the types of couples who used to make you shudder.
I know this is a tall order.
Here’s why I believe I can make such a promise
I have done the work — so you don’t have to — by integrating recent findings in neuroscience, attachment theory and differentiation into this training program!
The Developmental Model of Couples Therapyprovides an unprecedented training program that can teach you to:
  • Help couples understand the underlying cause of relationship distress.
  • Apply practical techniques to get healing results.
  • Motivate unmotivated partners to take action.
  • Create progress so your couples don’t get discouraged and give up.
And it’s training without travel! You can get all of this anywhere you have internet access.
You can register for an early access pass to get 2 free months, a reduced training rate, and a mystery bonus from your trainer, Dr. Ellyn Bader here.
Originally published at https://couplesinstitute.com.
Location: Menlo Park, CA, USA

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